confessions of a modern mom

Birth Plans

This topic has come up so frequently over the last two weeks that I decided to do a post. If you’ve been reading my blog for any length of time, then you probably already know what I think of birth plans.

Really, you want to have a plan for how your baby’s birth is going to take place? Has your life gone exactly according to plan so far? If so, please let me know how you’ve managed that. Otherwise, if you’re like most of us non-perfect humanoids, then hopefully you will realize how ridiculous a birth plan sounds. When you enter the hospital on your day of delivery, you should rest assured that you have selected a facility that will do everything in its power to ensure the successful delivery of your child. If you are rushed to a “strange” facility in an emergent siuation, you need to trust that they have your safety and health as their top priority. Giving doctors and nurses instructions based on stuff you’ve read in books or online is probably not your best bet. Unless you are a practicing ObGyn, then you have expertise in the field.

But seriously, most people who create birth plans are very strict and rigid in what they want and expect from their labor and delivery. I hate to tell you, but it’s nothing like what you expect. You simply cannot foretell what will take place on that day. I have known too many women who had to drastically alter their “plans” due to situations that came up. One had to be rushed from her birthing center to a hospital because her baby was in distress. Another had to give up on pushing after 8 hours and have a C-section. Another had to forego the epidural because it was too late and she had to start pushing. Things come up. Life happens. The people who do this all day every day are going to look out for your safety. That’s what they do. So, let them do their jobs. If you do decide to make a birth plan, please realize that it may (read: will probably) need to change. And that’s ok.

As they say, “The best laid plans…” Right???



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